“Girl, where the hell have you been?” That’s probably what you’re saying right now. And honestly, I have no idea. I have been all over the place. I have been doing alot of cool stuff and trying to write alot of cool blog post for you guys, buttttt I just haven’t been feeling myself. You see, I have this thing with perfection. And lately, these thoughts of perfectionism have been taking over. I find myself constantly ridiculing myself over the smallest things…forgetting to fill up my gas tank, missing an important phone call, not getting my blog up in time. Any and every little thing sets me off. I’m a perfectionist. Omg. I just confessed the problem. That’s the first step right?
I didn’t realize this until recently when I had a conversation with my friend Paige and she pointed out that I always say “I never mess up.”
Omg. But I DO! I know, I look perfectly pink in picture above, but I’m not. (Btw, this photo was taken by the lovely Jordan Marie on site at Impeccable Pig Boutique…such cute clothes) In fact, I mess up all the time. Here are some of my secrets mistakes that I’ve made…some are old, but I’m still harboring on them.
1. Last fall, I made my first “C” ever. Not just any “C”. A “C-“,which is practically a “D”. (Idk when I’ll get over this)
2.I missed a deadline for sponsored blog post.
3. I dated a guy, who in my mind, I knew I NEVER should have, buttt I did it anyway, and he turned out to be the worst mistake ever!
4.I didn’t monitor my account like I normally do and I overdrafted my account.
5. I had too much fun at a social gathering. (Don’t be nosy, people, this is all you’re getting.)
These aren’t really big things, but I tend to obsess over them and beat myself about it forever.I desperately need to work on this, especially if I don’t want live my life feeling like a failure all the time…which I don’t.
Paige shared the quote below with me…and I’ve been marinating on it ever since. I love it.
“Never a failure, always a lesson.”-Rihanna
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I never thought that I’d be using Rihanna quotes as life inspiration, but this is such a powerful message.
I love to be successful. I like to do everything right! I’m an overachiever by nature. But I know that I do in fact mess up. And that’s okay though, as long as I learn from it. Thanks for sharing Paige…you’re such a good friend!
BTW, this is Paige…
You guys have met her on the blog before…at the Trey Songz Concert and National Cheesecake Day. But I digress…
Soooooo, what does that mean for you guys? I was gone for a minute, now I’m back with the jumpoff—I mean more blog post. LOL I’m going to write every day, this upcoming week, and if I’m inspired…multiple times per day.
Thanks for coming by!
8 thoughts on “Life Advice from Rihanna: Confessions of a Perfectionist”
Twitter: styleontheside
Well your friend Paige is absolutely right! I suffer from the same affliction and in the end it never works in my favor. So I’ll share a secret with you, some of my best received posts were written on the fly when I wrote from the heart and not my brain….
xo
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Twitter: taylorbrione
Yeah! It was great advice! Now I need to focus on living that! Thank you for sharing!
Twitter: yummommies
I definitely think that we have to allow ourselves to be able to make mistakes every so often. How else would we learn what works and what doesn’t work for us? I use to be obsessed with trying to be perfect, but a marriage and two kids later has helped me to realize there is no such thing when it comes to living my life. And I’m ok with that now.
That is awesome advice. I tend to be very hard on myself for my failures – it is a great perspective to look at them as lessons, and then move forward.
She is right – you have to look at ‘mistakes’ as lessons learned.
As they say, there’s no use crying over spilled milk – what’s done is done!
Now as long as you don’t continue making them – then it is a lesson learned!
Really appreciate your honesty in this post. Being a perfectionist doesn’t mean you have to be perfect or that you can’t make mistakes. We all make mistakes, but that’s what makes us human and relatable. Nobody can relate to someone who claims to be perfect; in fact, we’d all consider it a lie. And attitude definitely makes a difference on how people “succeed” or get up after falling in life. -Jessica L
Twitter: taylorbrione
Thank you so much!I’ve been learning that too. Some of my friends have a hard time connecting with me sometimes when I say that I never mess up. I don’t want to be that friend that thinks that they are better than others. I’m working on that too! Thanks so much for your comment!
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