I’m so disturbed. I knew rape culture was getting out of hand, but I didn’t know how bad until last week.

This week a story broke in Houston of a young girl named Jade. She attended a house party, where she says she was given some spiked punch, which caused her to black out. She was then raped and photographed. That is not the worst part. Her pictures were then shared online with the hashtag #JadePose. Her rape went viral. So not only was she physically assaulted, she is now being assaulted every time someone shares the pictures or makes a meme mocking her. I have mutual friends with Jade, but I don’t know her personally. However, I feel for her. I can’t imagine, going to a party trying to have a fun time and waking up to your naked unconscious body passed out on the floor circulating all around the internet. I just can’t. I’m praying for justice for her. I really am. I’ve been following the news stories about this,  being cautious as to not read the comments below the videos, for fear that I wouldn’t like what I saw. I need I would go into full defense mode. Well, it happened…on my own Facebook timeline. With someone who at one point I guess I considered a decent enough human being to accept him as a “friend” on Facebook. (He has since been deleted)

This is the post that set me off and inspired this blog post:

So naturally, I got mad. Livid. Pissed. I just couldn’t imagine someone could literally be blaming a rape victim for her attack…and then later negating that it was even a rape at all. So I started furiously typing, I had expletives from here to glory, and then my message disappeared (freaking Facebook right?!), so I got all my verbally dangerous anger in the first post and then I responded (along with another outraged woman) with this:

I thought that was a perfectly good response. He’s obviously not intelligent so I didn’t want to put too much information…I just wanted to respond to his points and make him look stupid. I expected him to not respond or at least respond in a manner that attempted to make his argument logical…he didn’t. In fact his comments were so despicable, I deleted him immediately. I didn’t event get to screenshot the rest of his wording. (Bad reporter!) But it was something like, “Girls need to stop being fast and getting guys in trouble. This happened to a friend of mine. He went to jail because the girl lied and she was fast. This happens to guys to.” His argument didn’t even make sense, there was no point in arguing with a loser like him. He has no regards for the victim and what she may be going through. It is important however, that we as women (and men)  start fighting for each other, fighting for better laws–stricter laws, and speaking up when something isn’t right.  We need to call the news stations and tell the journalist rape isn’t synonymous with sex….so don’t replace the word. We need to make sure rape is taken seriously on college campuses. We need to get Blurred Lines off the effing radio. We need to report hashtags that support the rape of victims like Jade. The normalization of rape can only be stopped if we stop it. There were other young women on his page…a potential victim themselves…who joined in and called Jade names and said she was fast and needed to be at home–we need to people like them.
I wanted to expose this jerk on my blog, so that he can get bombarded with hate messages like this young lady did, but after, seeking some quick legal advice from my lawyer friend, she advised against. Isn’t it sick…this young lady is spread out all over the internet in vulnerable positions in an unconscious state, no arrest have been made…yet the law protects the people who mock and blame her, her attackers, and the bystanders who watched and did nothing. I’m not going to share his information here, but this same conversation is also published on BuzzFeed  and you can say all he had to say and add your two cents as well. His remarks are very easy to find! Just search the page for “Don”.

: Somebody must have sent him some messages. Because the original Facebook message has been deleted of his page (I’m messy and had my friend look) and off Buzzfeed. Serves his dumb ass right!